Mother's Day Is Hard, but You’ve already done The Hard Stuff

Let me address the elephant in the room - it's Mother's Day in Singapore this Sunday, and I'm guessing in some other countries too. 

I'm trying my best not to think about it, but every shopping mall has a Mother's Day event, and I'm bombarded by "what to get for your mother this mother's day" Ads on Facebook on Instagram! And my fertile sisters are having a Mother’s Day gathering this Saturday.

I was planning to do nothing, because it’s just another day.

But I have to say something, because I know some of you are struggling.

I have to tell you that YOU can do the hard stuff.

You've already done it!

Let me make a list:

  • Scheduled intercourse

  • Doctor appointments

  • Said Yes to IUI/IVF

  • Stopped running, HITT, hot yoga etc

  • Ate yucky TCM herbs

  • And ate all those supplements from the book ISWTE

  • Gave up (or tried to limit) gluten, dairy, processed food, coffee, alcohol

  • Read and tried everything to improve egg quality and your implantation, except the kitchen sink

  • Held back tears at work and at home, trying to be strong

You survived…

  • Baby showers

  • Pregnancy announcements

  • Family gatherings

  • Having people judge you for not having kids (yet)

  • Going to the clinic by yourself

  • Getting poked in the arm, belly and the butt

  • Having wanda up your woowoo

  • More needles from acupuncture

  • Heck you probably sat through a room of pregnant bellies and stared at a wall of happy baby pictures

  • Getting fat

  • the PTSD of doing multiple cycles

  • ALL the WAITING

  • Feeling disappointed when you got your period , a negative HCG or zero eggs at retrieval

  • (And still healing) from the grief of your loss

  • Feelings of hopelessness, despair, devastation and brokenness

  • Someone saying something mean and insensitive

  • Difficult conversations with your other half

And You did this………

  • You learnt to be gentler and kinder with yourself (and to others)

  • You learnt that it’s okay to smile even if you feel sad inside

  • You learnt more about your body and your menstrual health

  • You learnt tools to calm your stress response and manage your anxiety

  • You allowed yourself to rest

  • You asked for support

  • You support others whilst you are still healing

  • You woke up this morning!

You Woke up this morning!!!

You woke up this morning!

It is hard.
Mother's day is hard.
Waking up sometimes is hard.

But remember you’ve already done the hard stuff!

Comment below if there’s anything I’ve missed from this wonderfully brave fertility DONE list of ours.

Original content from @bravinginfertility

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Sophie Sanders

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