If you are on social media, you'd see your friends or random strangers you follow - celebrate and reflect on 2021, and I know, you don't feel like it, much less write about what you can look forward to in the new year.
It's really hard to hopeful and begin again, especially when you are not where you are supposed to be, you've not done the things you wanted to do, or things didn't go the way you wanted it to go.
And it doesn’t help that we do have a tendency to focus on the bad parts of ourselves, of others, looking to see what's wrong, what went wrong - when it doesn't really matter who was right or wrong and how it happened.
The new year gives an opportunity to forgive, to let go of resentment, grudges and anger and simply do better.
One important thing I learnt last year is that having gratitude for what I have in my life - allowed me to let go of negative thoughts so I can create space for new thoughts that will serve me better.
So yes, it is a struggle to write my reflections for 2021, but it's the only way, I can celebrate the blessings and experience the abundance that is already present in my life.
In my previous post, I made a commitment to spend 10 mins of my life to do my LISTS and I'm going to share them here, like what I've done every year for the past 5 years. (hello 2021, Hello 2020, Hello 2019, Hello 2018 and Hello 2017)
2021 JOY LIST
(My highs, my wins, milestones from the previous year)
Having the courage to restart my IVF cycle
Dancing twice a week
Travelling the UK before Christmas (and before Omnicron)
Moving to a bigger apartment
Learning mandarin
Signed up for a 2nd fertility yoga teacher training
Signed for a post-graduate course in positive psychology
Letting go of social media
My husband
Teaching yoga as self-care for women every Tuesday night
Speaking to a counseler
Letting go of what a diet should look like
Completing my Fertility Support course
Our families are safe and healthy
2021 SURRENDER LIST
(my lows, things I'm leaving behind)
MOVING
My fertility doctor falling sick thus my IVF cycles got disrupted
not being consistent with my blogging and meditating
negative self-talk
Things I can't control
my infertility diagnosis
Comparing myself to others
2022 NEW YEAR POSSIBILITIES LIST
(mindsets/habits/mental health support for the new year and things I can do better)
Surround myself with positive energy
Surrender to the things I can't control
Do one thing that makes me happy every day
Allow myself to Rest without guilt or judgement
remember to stop and breathe more
Be the best, kindest version of myself
Completing my bebomia certification, IVF yoga certification, post-grad
Move daily
Strength train twice a week
Waking early to meditate and journal
Take up a non-yoga skill
write thank you notes
Sell stuff online
Write content for @bravinginfertility
Hang out on my New balcony
Truly, making these list will give us access to forgiveness and grace, and it's a beautiful gift, only we can give to ourselves if we truly want to have freedom, peace and possibilities in our lives.
Here’s How to Create your Joy list, Your Surrender List and your New Year Possibilities List In 10 mins.
AND
I am aware that a lot of us are into not writing new year resolutions or have given it up. So I want you to think of it as possibilities - what can you do if anything is possible?
And instead of coming out with a list - how about thinking of ONE that will support your mental health in 2022? What would you do?
